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Sarah Akiyama's avatar

Why did I CRY at this line?: "I think that’s the element achingly absent in adult friendships: history." Making new friendships always feels so burdensome for this EXACT reason. Loved this essay, Vanessa!

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Vanessa Labi's avatar

Ahaha I’m glad it resonated! Burdensome is the perfect word. Trying to get past that feeling and suck it up to make some new friends ain’t easy but it is worth it. Thanks for reading!

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Maurice Labi's avatar

Loved the line “You can’t manufacture a past.” Being in a decades-long friendship doesn’t need explaining; a raised eyebrow, a twinkle in the eye sums up years of shared history, something that cannot be said about meeting someone at the bar.

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Vanessa Labi's avatar

Exactly, Dad! Long friendships carry their own unspoken language. Making new friends can be daunting like learning a new language but c’est la vie!

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Jillian Goldfluss's avatar

Such a great read! So relatable and visceral, I loved it

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Vanessa Labi's avatar

Thank you, friend! Love you.

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Pnina's avatar

So well written! Beautiful! Loved all the description and the way it was written!

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Vanessa Labi's avatar

Thank you, Pnina! 💗

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Andrew Calisterio's avatar

I really loved this one. Will this become a podcast?

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Vanessa Labi's avatar

<3 Yess... eventually, haha.

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